Today I am returning to an open topic. Why did I decided to leave my well-paid job on a career path I loved and jump with my husband into the unknown? Am I blind as love is? Was I foolish in wanting just to fly over the ocean to another continent?
Maybe a little bit, I admit. But more than that, I am a woman. A woman who wants to support her husband in his visions. And doesn’t it make sense? Imagine that you are successful and capable woman. You have big plans that you want to accomplish throughout your life. But, you also want to meet the right partner to share it with.
I was looking for a man who also had big plans, so we would match in our ambitions.
No dummy, of course. I wanted a real partner, who would be supportive of my dreams and confident enough to handle my success as well as his own. The only thing I never imagined when I dreamt of this man, was how big his plans would turn out to be, that they would be even bigger than mine.
Husband: The cooperation on my project in California is developing really well and now it needs my full attention. Decisions take time and we don’t have much, we should decide sooner rather than later.
Me: I have big project too, but I need more experience and time to truly help it grow to its full potential.
Result: We gave way to my husband’s project and flew to USA.
But I get it. That still doesn’t explain what I do here, but I perceive it in this way: A man is focused, an achiever and a fighter. A woman is love, an inspiration and cultivator of space. So I am the woman here. I stand lovingly by my man’s side no matter where that is.
In reality it looks like a little different.
I take care of myself, cook for both of us, write, create. I run, exercise, and go to the sauna. I attend every meeting with my husband to take notes, and to oversee the important points and organization of the work. I shine. Who wouldn’t be shining in this space after a few years of intensive work, right?
It seems that all big projects need to be balanced with woman’s energy, especially when there are only men on the team. I think this way because we are successful. We are more successful than before, when we were working on our own goals, separately, on two different continents. And more importantly, we are happier.
Women! Have joy, take care of yourselves. It is not a shame to exist in an unconventional environment and take pride in yourself. I am proud of it, and I have found my space.
Translation with the help of Ellie Farrier